Monday, October 3, 2011

Time to Go NUTS!!

This is the email I sent to Lufthansa after a person with good heart advised me when I approached him to find answers for if flight attendants know passengers name, final destination and if possible phone number.

Lufthasa Flight Attendant
Hi, Please see the attached file which is a sketch of the flight attendant whom I met on LH 441 flight who was genuinely unbelievably good with me. I would like to interact with him again. I did not get a chance to speak or say at least "bye" or "thank you" as he was at the tail section of the plane. Please I beg you to pass this message to him. My heart says and believes that he would be extremely happy to get in touch with me. If he is willing to interact, please pass my email id. I would really like to know more about him. Please don't hang me out to dry, just let me know if you were able to reach him or able to identify him. I beg you not to ignore my request. Lufthansa is lucky to have him. He was always smiling, welcoming and helpful without showing not even once a dot of tiredness on his face during our ten hour flight. Even on my return flight too, flight attendants were so helpful to the boy who was in need. She was totally like his mom, helped him out without getting irritated by his complex situation. Kudos to your service and cleanliness. I really enjoyed flying on Lufthansa. Thanks
I don't know what will happen to my myth of him interested in me. Will he respond to me? Will even Lufthansa allow the message to reach him? They might me thinking oh sure honey! no problem! after all the service we do, we will help you to be a stalker.

Check out the conversation I had with this good guy who gave me an outrageous and crazy suggestion of how to get in touch with the flight attendant:
I was looking for a flight attendant who can answer my question and right then, your website popped up. Could you please answer this question: Do flight attendants know passengers name and information like where a particular passenger is heading? Is it possible to find a passengers phone number if they are desperate to contact?

I would truly appreciate your insight!


Hello Serendipity! Before contacting someone who might be able to answer your questions, I was curious what is prompting them?

The good old belief in "Love at First Sight"!! I believe "love" makes you do crazy things and enriches your mind with creative thinking.

Hope nothing stops you to find an answer for my question.


You seem like an interesting person, Serendipity. Do you have a website? I'll contact a FA and see if I can get an answer for you.

Thanks!! Sorry, I don't have a website. (I was uncomfortable to openly lie but I had to as I was scared to let some stranger to know about me and my every move on day to day basis.)

Hope you'll soon come back with an answer.

I contacted a flight attendant about your questions. I'll let you know as soon as I hear back from him!
Thank you Gregg, for being sincere.

You're welcome Serendipity. I care and try to please.

Unfortunately my flight attendant contact hasn't gotten back with me. I'll share his response with you if he does contact me. I think I know the answers however. FAs don't have that information, but ticket agents do. A FA would perhaps be able to get that information if he/she inquired with a ticket agent. Not sure if they would be provided with a phone number however.
I'm curious what's driving your inquiry? Was there a flight attendant that caught your interest?

Hello Gregg,

Yes indeed, a flight attendant caught my attention but my experience is just the opposite of what passengers portray on your website. We exchanged too many unspoken glances towards each other during our ten hour flight. He might have given me an indication to come and talk to him by staring at me for at least ten seconds without any facial expression for which I gave a question mark look and shyly and softly said "what", but there was no response and this happened while he was walking forward, passing my seat, crossing one more seat and still looking at me until he went on to a different section of the plane. Of course, I did not know how to respond to something which can easily be misinterpreted. I didn't even get to say "bye" or "thanks" as he was at the tail section of the plane. I was in ecstatic state for two weeks, exactly like Cobra Starship's "you make me feel" and felt like the whole world is under my control. With every passing day, slowly the reality is kicking in, making me to realize that I may never meet him ever again. I may never get to see his welcoming smile or his excitement-to -see-my-face look as if we know each other from long time or hear his soft whispering voice with undivided attention or even for that matter his glance. I don't know his name or nationality or his basic daily routine or whether it is day/night for him or is he up in the sky or on the ground or vacationing in some new exotic place.....nothing...ZILCH!.... basically nothing to imagine.

Well, I know that flight attendants need to be attentive and pleasing towards passengers but in this case, I really felt the connection. I've noticed other flight attendants mannerisms and I can guarantee that I did not catch anybody's attention or even for that matter my mere existence.

I'm a budding artist so I used my skills to draw his portrait as I don't want to forget his face or his expression. Please find the attached file(the above picture) to see where my memory led me to....

Thanks for the information.


Nice art work Serendipity! I hope that you continue to develop your artistic skills as you definitely have talent.

Too bad that you didn't give the attendant your name and a way to reach you. Then you'd know if he was interested in you or not. We don't know for sure if he has the capability of obtaining your personal information. If he did, he would have contacted you by now. Since you know who he works for and the flight number and date of the flight, maybe you could contact the airline to see if you could find a way that you could reach him. It might help your cause if you spoke in person with someone at the airline's ticket counter (bring your drawing!). If things don't work out - and I know that you won't believe it at this time - you'll eventually feel a connection with someone else in the future.

Let me know how things work out!

Best wishes to you,

I really appreciate your input, time and optimism. But you won't be hearing from me soon on this topic as I cannot chase someone crazily when I know that he too can eventually feel a connection with someone and maybe pretty quickly too as he is in that kind of job where he can encounter meeting too many pretty people and find himself in same kind of scenarios. I'll leave it to destiny as that's what made me to get on to that plane when I was not even supposed to fly from Houston. I know there are some people who makes things happen and make their own destiny and some just wait.....

I'll definitely keep you in mind if I ever meet him again.

Til then...


But later I realized, instead of standing in front of the ticket counter with his portrait picture in one hand. I just took the help of technology and I was surprised that we attach pictures to the commenting section. As I'm typing this, tears are rolling from my eyes as I feel strongly that Lufthansa won't leak about their employees. Even If they reach him, will he really get back to me? Portrait of his promises so much hope and familiarity about him. But reality might be totally opposite. Reaching climax to this new love saga, the truth about the so called word we use "connection". Truth or just illusion as it was before with j. When you leave things without knowing then you keep false hopes but when you cut off hopes by going behind the truth is sometimes really really good even though it may give pain to see hope vanishing. But it saves me from his face and those flight interacting scenarios appearing over and over while I'm trying to sleep. I really need to thank him for getting me out of J's world. I prayed to God that please do something for me to forget about him and this is solution he found by making me meet this Lufthansa flight attendant. So, what is truth about "LOVE"? Do really "love" exist"? Are our feelings genuine for someone or is it lasts until we meet new face? I'm all confused.....I can't believe myself anymore.

This is the response Lufthansa sent....nothing surprising, nothing amazing...
Thank you for contacting Lufthansa.

Your comments have been registered under the following feedback reference number 21409036. Our Customer Feedback Management team will contact you shortly in this matter.

Every effort will be made to answer your query as quickly as possible. Since we are facing very high volumes of enquiries at the moment, we would be grateful if you could refrain from sending another e-mail regarding the same matter. Thank you.

For any further questions, you can find contact information for Lufthansa offices worldwide under Help & Contact" on

Best regards,

Lufthansa German Airlines
Customer Feedback Management

Its all luck and destiny if my message can reach him.

12:05 P.M.: something unbelievable happened when I checked my email. The guy who used to interact with me sent this email:


If you don't mind, I'd like to email your drawing to my FA friend to see if he recognizes him. Would that be OK?

How old would you guess your FA is?


Wow! you'll really do that for me. OMG! I can't believe this. I can't stop smiling!

Yes sure!

But today after I sent an email to you, I thought about your idea and then took easy route and sent an email to Lufthansa under comments and crew behavior section.

So Gregg, a loud "YES" from me to forward my drawing to your FA friend. God, you checking with me before showing, that itself is like "you are so Gentleman".

Of course, he will be younger than me. Definitely in early 20's. My portrait should have answered your question.


I think you should have included your flight number and date of travel to make it easier for them to identify him.

Yes, I included both in the form.


Excellent! Let me know what you hear back from them. I'll forward your drawing to my FA contact to see if he might recognize your friend. It's unlikely, but it's worth the try. Let's keep our fingers crossed!

My heart is beating so fast. Questions of what-if is popping up. What if I just dreamed the whole thing? How embarrassing it will be if he did not do or think the way I saw? What if he just did his job? Gregg calling him as my "friend" is making me feel like as if we both are really close to each other, like the real deal. I don't understand myself of why I'm feeling the attachment growing more and more with each passing day. My mind is trying to trick me. Why those special moments are coming back right in front of my eyes and that too all the time? Each passing day, I can visualize your face clearer and clearer. The doubts which I had about that ten seconds when you stared at me, cleared up in my sleep as I literally saw that there is no chance with that angle you could have not seen anybody other than me. I'm nervous when I think of what Gregg is thinking - trying his best to make us meet like as if we are going to have future together but he doesn't know that other than interacting with you, I can't really take this relationship anywhere. How and when should I let him know? I'm not sure about Lufthansa reading my email or even working on it. If they do too, will you really be excited or have moved on and act out like you don't know remember anyone on that flight. That will be insult as now, Gregg is involved too. This time I really did not want to come out expressing, I wanted you to come in search of me. I'm so tired of me chasing people like you, who start showing interest and when I don't retaliate, you give up. Why do you give up so easily? I'm in the same position as before. I know how things got messed up when I opened up to J. He showed up excitement in his own way by calling me to a club and then later publishing his phone number on Myspace but I didn't react at all as I expected his reaction would be direct, happy - displaying surprise and elated statement on Myspace. I got offended when I saw his messages calling me to clubs or to his birthday party like as if I was freely available to date. This time I'll not be anonymous and that was the reason I used my real name in the Lufthansa form. When I'm not available why do I react to others interest on me. Because I don't know how to make friends on my own and when someone shows interest in me and that too with whom I feel pretty comfortable, I don't want to lose them. I want them to be in my life forever. They boost my confidence as deep down I know that they like me, admire me and act like I'm special. Please if at all my message reaches to you, please please come to my expectations.

I was so composed and played down meeting you or about the special moments, but even if its going to be four months, I am still finding myself giving you more and more importance and feel our meeting as precious. My brain is making me believe that you really really like me a lot. I'm so scared of my thoughts getting crushed. Let us see where the truth will lead me to. Hope I'll not make myself fool again.

Check out today's post on Huffington post, related to missed connections.

Every day hundreds of strangers fall in love on the strength of a glance, a smile or a particular hat. The moment is fleeting, and in a desperate attempt to reconnect, people post Missed Connections. I am completely obsessed with these funny, sad, strange and beautiful messages; these bizarre short stories of unrequited love. For the past two years I've been turning them into paintings for a blog, which are now collected in a book, "Missed Connections, Love, Lost & Found."

Missed Connections have about as much chance of reaching their intended as a love letter written on a paper plane and launched from the Empire State Building. But you'd be surprised. In the last year, I've had 47 emails from happily united couples. Six of them even asked me to illustrate their wedding invitations. I guess for all the hopelessness in writing and posting a Missed Connection, for all the "You probably won't read this," there's a justifiable 15-watt bulb of hope dimly glowing in each message...

Missed Connections
So truly fools like me exist and trust the strength of a glance and they openly let it out. Hope you are one of them. Hope you still think about me. Stay tuned to see wish dies or mysteriously stays alive.

Just now received a message from Lufthansa...

Thank you for your correspondence regarding your recent experience. In an industry where customer satisfaction is essential to our success, we are grateful to have received your comments.

It is our goal to impress the customer at every touchpoint with professional courtesy and we are always pleased to learn of successes like the one you describe. Your comments have been preserved for review by management in an effort to maintain our high standards of excellence.

Your feedback is especially valuable because it helps us keep in touch with your needs and it gives our team members plenty to smile about. We look forward to the opportunity to welcome you onboard in the near future.

Lufthansa German Airlines

After reading this I forwarded it to Gregg...


Please see the message from Lufthansa. If not any positive outcome for me from this email, hope at least he gets a pay raise or promotion or recognition. Please let me know your thoughts.


It's a generic response; it doesn't look like you're going to receive any contact information about your "friend." As you said, maybe your correspondence will at least help him out. I'll let you know as soon as I hear back from my contact.


Yes, I shedded few tears, but kind of relieved. I don't want to know the truth. I don't want to face negativity or me becoming fool again. Even though I'm crying, I want to stop thinking about him or the so called "moments". I want to forget him. I don't want to put myself vulnerable like this again or trust on anyone or fall for this kind of scenarios. Everything happens for good and that's how I want to end this topic. I had my chance to find out the truth when he glanced at me but I let it go by not believing. I should continue believing in that. God, I don't need anybody other than whoever is close to me now.

"In everyone's life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit."
Albert Schweitzer

Just thank them but not stalk them or try create a relationship with them!!

I Miss You My FriendThere is an immeasurable distance between late and too late.

Oct 9th 2011:

Hi Serendipity. I heard back from my FA contact. I'm sorry to say that he didn't recognize the FA in your drawing.

I really wish that I had better news for you.

Take care,


That's okay Gregg. I'll be naive to think of someone recognizing FA from my drawing. Whatif, if he flatly declined whatever I said then it would've been totally embarrassing. Everything happens for good. It will be much more sweeter if we meet each other again and if he recognizes me. I'll just wait for that day to come. Who knows, miracles can happen.

Very kind of you to take time and help. I appreciate every bit of your help.

Just curious: the FA, you know from your contact, does he work for Lufthansa? Did you tell him the whole saga? What did he say? From your website, I came to know that passengers should not give trash to FA's when they're just walking for some other purpose. Thanks for the info. Good to know as from that day onwards, FAs' have a special place in my heart :) I need to be kind with every FA I come across.


No, he doesn't work for them. I thought it was worth a try though. I told him the saga. He didn't think there would be much hope in you getting in touch with the FA on your flight.

We are in the world where every situation can be ridiculed but you on the other hand willingly took my matter seriously and responded my every email.

Thank you so much for your cooperation.

Wish someone with an open mind and helpful nature like you was at Lufthansa, with just snap of fingers, I would have been in touch with him, but things don't come that easy. Everybody have to think about cons.

You too take care Gregg!!

Well, that's the end of "Time to Go Nuts" series. I really want to prove Gregg's belief of me not meeting the FA again is WRONG. No one can say with 100% guarantee that there is no chance if me meeting him again so even though it looks bleak, I want to believe that one day I'll get a chance to meet him. I feel strongly that he might be an American as he did not have any German accent so my chances are meeting him is possible. What if, he might be a Texan then my percentage of meeting goes higher. We may meet at a restaurant, we both recognize by the way we glance at each other. Maybe we both approach each other by asking June 7th 2011 meeting. Then the world suddenly feels small. I'll be happiest person on this Earth to finally see the warmth smile, twinkling eyes and a familiar face. There is endless possibilities of us seeing each other again!! No one can stop the DESTINY which is bound to happen!!!
"When you clearly envision the outcome of victory, engrave it upon your heart, and are firmly convinced that you will attain it, your brain makes every effort to realize the mental image you have created. And then, through your unceasing efforts, that victory is finally made a reality."
Like minds think alike: When I was thinking about endless possibilities of meeting him, the thought  of getting onto breaking news crossed my mind, in that he will see me on TV and know my whereabouts......while I was flipping channels, I came across to Scripts song "The Man Who Can't Be Moved".....a smile crossed my face thinking "like minds think alike".

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